whats a matter you!!!

This kid looks like I feel!!  I am so crabby today I cannot even stand myself!!  So..it goes without saying that I should get my miserable ass to bed. 

Time...

Time...where does it really go.  I had all these plans today!  Plans to see friends, tidy my house, get groceries, bake, go to my appointments, finish the laundry & maybe make a few cards in my not so tidy scrap studio!!  Instead...I cleaned my fridge & pantry (because the kids didn't do it).  I shoveled off my fronts steps & scraped the ice (because my kids didn't do it).  Cleaned my truck inside (because my kids made a bloody mess)!  That is where my time goes!  My kids.  I love them but man tehy take some serious work!  They create serious work...they just are heavy duty work!!  So for tomorrow... I will be thankful that I can be there to clean up a mess that the children I have make.  I will be happy that my life is full because of my blessings (my babies)!!  Soon enough, they won't need me to clean up their messes because they will move on ...so not just for tomorrow but until such time... I will spend my TIME on them!!

On this day God wants you to know...

... that it is time to finally forgive yourself. You've carried the guilt, the shame for long enough. You've kept your wounds open for long enough. The time has come to let go, to heal. Keep the lessons and let the pain heal. Yes, you know what we are talking about it.

 

This was a facebook message today & it came at an amazing time.  Thank you God for being there not only when I need you but all the time!!

A long time ago....

I wrote a story about 'spider woman'.  I have come across that girl in lots of different ways here & there since the time I wrote that first post.  I thought I hated her.  I thought I needed her to pay for the way she treated myself & my family but now I know that everyday, in some small way, she suffers at her own hand. 

How hard would it be to look in the mirror & actually hate yourself.  How hard would it be to know that even though you swore you made sense at the time, people are sitting in judgement of the mistakes you continue to make because you won't acknowledge or repair the damage you create or forgive a gesture you misunderstood & continue to make things worse for everyone around including yourself.

I am thankful to say that I have good wholesome, honest, well~meaning people in my life who know me & love me right where I am at because I am enough...I do enough...I am good enough.  I am so lucky that I can pick up a phone & call a friend & know they are my friend.  On the other hand, I am sad for spidey girl because she doesn't know what a true friend is or where to look for one or how to be one.    It must be a lonely place.

Some might ask why I give this so much effort & why after all this time I am still thinking about it... the answer is simple.  It hurts my heart to know that someone out there is cheating themself out of friendship.  I think I can be a pretty great friend & I was but it wasn't enough for her.  I have to come to grips with the simple fact that you aren't compatible with everyone & everyone can't like you but the ones that do should be cherished & respected & loved for all they are & all they do!

It is my sincere hope that some day this person heals in her heart enough to want to embrace the possibility of friendship.  True friends are real gems.

My reasons for EVERY season!!

So here we are, about a year since I started this blog.  I am not very good at keeping it up to date.  Life is busy.  I have three very good reasons for being busy!  They keep me on my toes but they make my life worth living too! 
Jordan, now 15 is having much success at his new school.  Since Grade 10 began at Eagle Butte High, he has been dedicated to his studies.  He is working very hard to keep his grade point average high so that he can "make alot of money".  I haven't seen him this committed to something.  So handsome at his young age.  Megan is the gift that keeps on giving.  There are times when she will do the laundry or clean the kitchen with no one asking her.  This Christmas that little beauty truly took the spirit of Christmas and applied it to her friends.  On her own & with her own money (for the most part), she picked things up here & there for each one of her friends.  I don't mean a little treat.  I mean a gift bag of treasures that she know they would love.  There were socks & treats, keychains & treasures!  It was awesome to see the spirit of giving. 
Brendan...our resident comedian has been keeping us in stitches as always.  He decided this hockey season to play as a player when he wasn't tending net.  Much to my surprise, he has assisted a couple of goals & apparently got a roughing penalty.  He is the kind of guy that pitches in when it comes to his friends.  They only have 11 players on the team (2 being goalies) so when they play several games like in a tournament, he plays out to help out the team.  Something I respect.  he isn't as adept as a player but he goes out there & works hard & has lots of laughs!!

With warm hearts we wish all of our friends and family a holiday season full of all the blessings life can bring.  Have a Merry Christmas & a blessed & fulfilling new year!!

Almost outta here...

Well...as of today there are 5 more sleeps until my family boards the plane for Aruba!! I cannot wait to walk through the sand in my bare feet.  I cannot wait to watch my kids lazing around on the beach!  I think it will be wonderful.  Aruba only has 90,000 population.  The island is about 19 miles across!  They speak dutch, portugese, spanish & english.  I hear there is a street festival akin to a mini Mardi Gras while we are there along with a cattamaran regatta, & a trip to the butterfly sanctuary.  We will lay around on the beach, snorkel, eat good food...maybe the parents will partake in some nightlife!  Can't wait to be away together as a family with Grandma too!!  The boys are not happy about missing hockey.  Jordan is distraught at the homework he will have when he returns but other than that..we are ready to board that plane!!

Handsome...isn't he?!

Wow!  Been a long time since I posted!  I had my handsome 15 year old son's pictures taken a few weeks ago.  He refused his Grade nine grad....hence, no pictures!  I wanted to celebrate in some way that he moved into High school so I had Epic Photography capture him doing what he loves best!  It strikes me each time I look at him just how grown up he is becoming.  Soon, he will graduate, (not that I am wishing my time away with him), he informs me he wants to leave home & head off to a post secondary institute.  I know it won't be close to home.  He is ready for change.  He is ready to grow up even if we aren't!  I hope he knows that no matter where he goes or what he does...home is where I hope his heart lies... just like he takes a piece of us when he goes!